So I finished The Happiness Project on December 31, 2016. I recommend the book wholeheartedly, I find the happiness project inspiring and more than that, do-able, customizable- I can do this and I can do it my way.
Of course, I’ve had 2 back to back colds, with about a 3 day break in between and so I’ve been slow to actually get going. We’re still in January and so I figured, better late than never. Not to mention, I am a rebel, haven’t yet started on Better Than Before (Gretchen Rubin’s other highly recommended book), but I did the assessment test. Not to mention, I also started my business in December and so, a cold, an infant and a business. Enough excuses though. If all I’ve just written seems too foreign to you, it’s because, I realize, it’s heavily written in Gretchen Rubin-speak. You may be wondering what is a happiness project anyway and what assessment do you speak of? While I won’t go into much detail, The Happiness Project is a book and I highly recommend you read it or at least read the synopsis on Amazon. If I had to summarize it, I’d say it’s a book about exploring the act of increasing and experiencing happiness in quotidian ways, in a personal way-what are things you can work on or that would make you personally happy. Rubin tells her experiences, but it’s more of a sample, guide for those looking to experience and increase happiness in their daily lives.
The book is broken up into chapters, each starting with Rubin’s goal for the month, which she calls resolutions. She goes into the difference between a goal and a resolution in the book, but for our purposes of establishing a reference point, I’ll call them goals.
Personally, for January I have 2 resolutions, one is a conscious choice and the other one, though now a conscience choice, sort of emerged and when I realized I was doing it, I thought to myself- hmm, that’s a fine resolution to have Katie!
I do plan on sticking to one resolution per month, but I’m embarking on this journey with some planning but the full intention of letting it grow organically. I still have to sit down and write at least my intended resolutions for each month, but let’s roll with just January for right now.
So, my intention for January is having, acquiring, cultivating more energy in my life. I want to start seriously working out again, be better about my eating habits, continue to organize even more, etc. I find that I am failing at these things because I’m taking the easy way out- get takeout, stayed up with the baby all night- I can skip my morning workout, I worked too much, etc. Rubin is big about acting the way you want to feel and I try and have been mostly successful, but honestly this flu/cold whatever I have has just put me out of commission, except for taking care of my daughter, I have to muster energy no matter what. See, I want to have that level of committment with myself, no matter what- workout, plan meals, because no matter what I take care of my daughter, of my clients. For example, on the weekend of the latest snowstorm, I had a client meeting and I went, despite having been feverish early in the day and being more congested than I’ve been in life. But, I got up, showered, dressed nicely, put on my makeup, some nice shoes and I was on my way. I was dying, but I didn’t look it- at least not until you heard me speak or I went into a coughing hack. I need to be as dedicated to working out, I need to cultivate energy. I really don’t have an excuse because, for the most part, I get a full night’s sleep and my husband is a very hands-on dad, so we really take care of the baby together for the most part.
Anyway, I do love working out-the results, how I feel afterwards, I’ve just been in this lazy funk. So I thought, energy is a fine resolution to have- be more energetic, and all these things would fall under that umbrella: get enough sleep, drink enough water, exercise.
However, I don’t know if it’s reading these type of books, and also we just went through the Christmas season, but I’ve been thinking that I could totally be kinder and do kind things for others, small things. Again, in my lazy funk or sometimes I legitimately just don’t have time, I cheap out on people in the sense that there’s little things I can do where I let them know that I love and appreciate them, that I care. So I have, without having made it an official resolution, been doing little things here and there-reaching out to friends, making myself available to an elderly neighbor; calling and listening to a friend who is going through some stuff, even at the end of a long day; reaching out to a good friend I haven’t spoken to in a few months; texting my husband, just because I probably don’t say it enough, just what a great dad and husband he is, because it’s true. I am not listing the examples to show off, more like to demonstrate how little my acts of kindness have been, they really required minimal effort and they’ve brought me immense joy because they have been sincere and well received. Since I gave birth, I have sort of retreated into myself, not really on purpose, there’s a lot of factors, but mostly my lack of effort or maybe even self-centerdness has been isolating and that’s just not who I am. Also, I want the people who I love and appreciate to know so, though I do consider myself an affectionate person, I may not express it as much as I’d like.
So there are my January resolutions, cultivate more energy in my life and do more acts of kindness for others, however small.
Hope you guys are having a wonderful 2017 and that it just keeps getting better!